It’s hard to talk about penises without talking about size – isn’t it? In most popular porn, many adult performers in a frenzy of passion utter some variation of the phrase “big, hard cock” as if these three words were actually a coherent concept. But does penis size really matter during sex? Find out here.
What does penis size have to do with sex?
Study after study shows that many women (and men, too) don’t really care how big a man’s penis is, and for good reason: penis size has virtually nothing to do with physical pleasure. In fact, if you’re considering anal sex with your partner, a large penis can be quite a disadvantage. After all, if you can’t penetrate your partner, it’s going to be hard to have great sex, right?
So does penis size matter?
Let’s put it this way: penis size itself is largely irrelevant. Just as you wouldn’t dump the love of your life because of the size of her or his genitals, it’s unlikely that the fears you feel about the size of your penis match the actual concerns of your partner* or potential partner*.
You may fear that no one would ever fall in love with you if the person caught a glimpse of your penis because it “isn’t big enough.” That may be the case with a small number of people, but those people don’t exactly recommend themselves as good candidates for a relationship anyway, do they?
If you are interested in the person, you might wait a bit and give it some time. And this is where the really important factor comes in – not the size of your genitals, but the totality of your lovemaking experience. After all, to be a truly gifted lover requires a number of skills. One thing it doesn’t require is that your body look a certain way.
You can be well-endowed but still be a highly unpleasant person to sleep with, or you can be a true sex god with a micropenis.
This is what really matters
The old adage “It’s not the size that matters, it’s what you do with it” is only half true – because it’s not the size that matters. And it’s not what you do with your penis that matters, it’s what you do with your whole body.
Do you give your partner what he or she wants? Do you know about condoms? Do you have experience using sex toys? Are you comfortable talking about your quirks, fetishes, and desires with the people you sleep with? Can you tell when the other person is comfortable or uncomfortable during sex and respond?
If you can answer “yes” to most of these questions, sex with you is probably very enjoyable and your sex partner may want to do it again after the first time. If you can only answer “no” to these questions, then it will probably remain an unsatisfying first time in many cases, even you have “the perfect size” in your pants.
Conclusion
If you’ve been thinking frequently or all your life about whether your penis is normal, okay, or just good enough, then here’s a tip for you: starting today, please resolve to eliminate these thoughts and invest the thought activity into your sexual skills.